Last Updated on April 17, 2022 by ellen
It’s hard not to compare yourself to others in today’s world of social media. We’re bombarded daily by photos of our friends’ vacations, the remodeling they’re doing to their bathroom, or all the weight they’ve lost. We’re not the only ones that have to deal with comparisons. Our children see their friends grades, party invitations, new cars and new clothes. Those comparisons can be just as damaging to them as they can be to us.
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I’m Happy for You Book Review
Do you find yourself measuring your value against your friend’s house, body, marriage, resume, paycheck, organic garden, or Pinterest-worthy holiday décor, and coming up lacking? Do your college roommate’s Instagram snapshots bear little resemblance to the scene at your house this morning?
Excessive comparison and competition sap our energy and steal our joy. Our friends become our audience and judges, and our kids become part of our brand. Add social media’s constant invitation to post and peruse, and it’s no wonder that we’re left exhausted, discontent, and lonely. Thankfully, there is another way!
With refreshing candor and humor, Kay Wyma shares her experiences with comparison living and offers readers the simple remedies that helped her and her family reboot their perspective and discover freedom, authenticity, and joy.
I never really thought I did a lot of comparing to my friends. I like our simple lifestyle and have never wanted a big house or a fancy car. I’m OK without vacations and second homes. I realized after reading this book that I do compare myself to others – just in different ways. I compare myself when someone is offered an opportunity that I didn’t get (often when I don’t even want it).
I question my parenting skills when I see someone else post about how successful their children are. I compare my fitness ability, my photography, and my organizational skills. Those comparisons can be just as damaging as material comparisons.
Despite how confident and secure you are, we all do this. We may do this in different ways, but we all do. The author shares a few simple ways that we can recognize and stop the process of comparison. Her techniques are simple and straightforward and easy to implement. I could easily relate to her while I was reading the book and saw many ways that I could apply her recommendations to my life.
If you struggle with comparison, you’ll have your eyes opened by I’m Happy for you (SORT OF … Not really) by Kay Wills Wyma.
Ellen is a mom of a 25-year-old son and 30-year-old daughter. She is Grandma to one adorable toddler. In what little spare time she has, she loves to read, watch movies, and check out the latest toys and games.
I would like to win because the topic sounds extremely interesting and I love to read. I don’t think I’ve often jealous of other people’s success, but sometimes I am hard on myself and I think I could learn some useful tools from reading this.
I have kids… But I think it’s important that all of us learn to be happy for others. It’s fast disappearing.
I’m the worst at comparing myself to others and their success. I am actually talking to a coach about it!
I would like to win so I have something fun to read over christmas break!
Oh I need to read this! I struggle A lot with this, especially about parenting.
This is definitely a book I’d like to share with my adult daughter. I want to make sure she continues to celebrate her peers, not condone them for their successes.
I’m always looking for new books to read, especially ones about relationships. I’d like to think that I am a supportive friend, but you just never know…